Savage Love

By Dan Savage
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I spoke at Pacific University in Forest Grove, Ore., last Thursday night. PU students submitted a lot more questions—anonymously, on three-by-five-inch cards—than I could possibly answer in the 90 minutes we had together. So I’m going to use this week’s column to answer some of the PU questions I didn’t get to. Here we go:

What is the biggest barrier to the acceptance of gay marriage in the U.S.?

There are two big barriers.

First: all those loud, aggressive and hypocritical right-wing “Christian” shitsticks who oppose marriage equality because of some supposedly anti-gay bullshit they read in the Bible while ignoring everything in the very same Bible that limits their own sexual freedoms—you know, all those motherfuckers who masturbate, fornicate, divorce and remarry, and then turn around and oppose same-sex marriage because it “goes against their religion.”

Second: all those quiet, timid and cowardly NALT Christians out there who support marriage equality but have allowed their conservative co-religionists to hijack Christianity. (“NALT” stands for “not all like that,” the phrase you hear from liberal Christians whenever you bitch about conservative Christians, i.e., “We’re not all like that!” Yes, yes, NALTs—we know. You’re not all like that. Don’t tell us. Tell Tony Perkins, tell the pope, tell Maggie Gallagher, et al.)

Do you have advice about a breakup?

Thinking about breaking up with someone? Don’t draw it out—nothing is worse than the humiliating realization, some days after you’ve been dumped, that the person who dumped you wanted out of the relationship weeks or months earlier.

Just been broken up with? Cry, eat, delete (phone numbers, email, texts, sexts), defriend, hit the gym, hit on someone else just as soon as you’re able. Or sooner.

If you were an animal, what animal would you be?

I’m an animal already—I’m a primate, like you. If I had to be some other kind of animal, well, I would want to be either a tapeworm living in my husband’s gut or a particularly lethal bacteria that had just been inhaled by Glenn Beck.

What is your opinion of straight women participating in No Shave November?

I know nothing about No Shave November—but I’m an American, and we don’t let ignorance stop us from forming opinions. So I wholeheartedly endorse No Shave November, its mission and women’s participation in it.

What is your response to people who say that being gay is a choice?

“You think being gay is a choice? Then choose it: Suck my dick. Show me how it’s done. You choose it—suck my dick—right now, and I’ll videotape it, and then we’ll put the proof that being gay is a choice on the Internet for the whole world to see. Deal?”

What’s the most effective method for getting santorum out of the sheets?

An ounce of prevention—or the careful placement of a towel—is worth a pound of Spray ’n Wash Stain Stick. If putting down a towel, or taking time to douche, is too much for you, fuck on the floor or get brown sheets.

I had a traumatic experience freshman year that scarred me to the point that I did not want my boyfriend to be even a little dominant. Now, I am ready to take on a submissive role. How do I get my boyfriend to accept a submissive me?

Thank the boyfriend for being the not-even-a-little-dom partner you needed while you healed. Then tell him that, thanks in large part to him, you’re secure enough to start mixing it up and you want to explore consensual, erotic submission. Then offer him your erotic submission—in whatever form it takes/turns you on—without asking him to play an overtly dominant role. Then, when he sees that you’re not going to shatter, or that you’re really sure about this and that it really turns you on, he can grow into a more overtly dominant role.

What should I do if it is too BIG to get in without hurting? Lube is not an option!

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1. nalts said... on Nov 19, 2010 at 08:22PM

“Wow- my username Nalts is an acronym now? Thanks for the G2.”

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2. johnny jerking it said... on Nov 20, 2010 at 10:52AM

“hi jsut want to know if their are any guys out their like me. i get off on my wife telling me about her past sex life , the kinkier the better”

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3. jim1313 said... on Dec 4, 2010 at 02:15AM

“Everyone wants to forget, move on and run away. And, Advisers advise people what they want to hear, forget, move on and run away. What happened to forgiveness, regret and restitution? What about the children? What about what might have been true if the words of thousands of years ago are true and correct. Why have those words of love been reprinted for thousands of years?”

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