'Let's Say I'm A Pedophile'

By Dan Savage
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As for the link between Christianity and sadomasochism, well, considering the way Jesus died and the gruesome deaths of so many early Christians at the hands of Romans, what other choice did Christians have but to view suffering as evidence of divine favor and personal virtue? And I suspect that two thousand years of hearing about how Jesus suffered and died for our sins—whether we wanted him to or not—couldn’t help but have an impact on the erotic inner lives of the faithful. But taking sexual gratification from the infliction of pain predates Christianity—go read your ancient-Roman sex comedies—so you can’t pin all the kinksters out there on the Catholics.

Speaking of whipped saviors: Mike Gerle was International Mr. Leather in 2007—and he’s had it with the goody-two-shoeing of the gay BDSM scene. Leather bars are hosting more fundraisers than dark-and-cruisy beer blasts, and the guys entering leather-title contests seem more interested in raising money than they are in BDSM sex.

“This has got to stop,” Gerle writes on Leatherati. “If for no other reason, it is driving the kinky men I want to hook up with out of the few spaces we have left. This is cock-blocking on an enormous scale.”

My two cents: I think the demise of the anti-BDSM bigotry once so prevalent in the gay community and the advent of the internet have done more harm to the gay leather scene than all those Toys for Tots drives. Kinky guys don’t have to sneak into leather bars and pray that their friends don’t see them anymore; they can post personal ads at sites like Recon and GearFetish. And thanks to the destigmatization of kinks generally, and thanks to concepts like GGG, kinky gay guys don’t have to limit themselves to other kinky gay guys. They can date guys they’re into—vanilla or not—with a reasonable expectation that their kinks will be indulged.

Still, Toys for Tots drives and platitude-spouting leather-title contestants are contributing to the general lameness. In Minneapolis, a young gay kinkster, disappointed by the leather scene, decided to do something about it. Check out his blog at tynanfox.com for details.

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1. SandyLester said... on Apr 30, 2012 at 12:15AM

“Sorry if you are a pedophile, you should be locked up forever.”

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2. Anonymous said... on Apr 30, 2012 at 06:20AM

“Dude, you are one sick evil monster.”

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3. Anonymous said... on Apr 30, 2012 at 06:42AM

“Lets acknowledge good murderers like say the ones that hunt down and kill pedophiles.”

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4. Anonymous said... on Apr 30, 2012 at 10:30AM

“Dan Savage, apologist for NAMBLA.”

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5. hurting for over 50 years said... on Jun 10, 2012 at 12:39PM

“Paedophilia destroys innocence, childhoods, and lives. There is no such thing as a good paedophile. The 'theoretical' paedophile is not a paedophile if he has no thoughts on molesting, any more than Dan Savage is a theoretical woman.”

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6. Anonymous said... on Jul 8, 2012 at 02:53AM

“Interesting hypothetical. Here's another.

Lets say a man - an ordinary, good, man, has a button. This button, is connected to a series of detonators, each wired with explosives, inside the heads of 5 random people all over the world. The man with the button has no knowledge of who these people are, where they are, or what they do - they are total strangers to him, and he has no way of ever knowing who they are, until he presses that button.

Now, this man says he doesn't wish to ever use the button. He resists the urge to use the button, as he knows full well the button would hurt people. But he has a sick urge to press that button. He says he can supress it, but you know he's tempted to push it every day of his life.

I'm asking he get rid of the button.

There is nothing good to be gained from the button. There is no way he can use the button to help someone, it can only be used to hurt people. He says he doesn't want to hurt people, so why does he need the button?”

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7. Anonymous said... on Jul 16, 2012 at 01:39AM

“How do you get rid of the button if the button IS you?

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8. Anonymous said... on Aug 5, 2012 at 08:37AM

“You people make me sick, he is a pedophile because thats what he's attracted to, not that's hurt anyone. You think he should be locked up? What about every man that ever thought, "god I'd love to see that woman naked," is he also a rapist now? This isnt hard to understand, if he didnt commit a crime, and is keeping himself in control, he does NOT belong in jail nor is he to be detested. He is asking for help and clearly deserves it, have some compassion.

Grow the fuck up you asshats.”

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9. Anonymous said... on Aug 18, 2012 at 08:09PM

“The button is not him, its his sexual urges. Chemical castration will get rid of the button, with no major effects to any other area of his life. It will also take a load off his mind, because if, as he claimed, he does not wish to ever act on these urges, chemical castration will remove his urge to.”

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10. Gretchen said... on Nov 30, 2012 at 05:23PM

“Theoretically, if someone were to be a pedophile, then the right thing to do would be to tattoo their forehead, describing themselves as such, so that parents would know who to protect their children from. Theoretically. Then if hypothetically speaking, some poor child were victimized, it would be easier to find the person to castrate. Theoretically. Poor sick wack-job!”

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11. Nan said... on Jan 1, 2013 at 09:43PM

“If you think you will harm a kid, do whatever it takes to permanently and irrevocably stop yourself. Period.
I don't envy those whose deviant urges can potentially devastate the lives of others, but clearly the vast majority do not restrain themselves. Such is the nature of perversion; perverse individuals are driven to express their foul urges with extreme frequency and variety. Whether the gay circuit or child porn rings, deviants are never satisfied with occasional expressions of their urges. It must be constant and thus the danger to society. Print that if you dare.”

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12. Anonymous said... on May 8, 2013 at 07:22AM

“All you people commenting are fucked up in the head and need mental help and consoling. Pedophiles are not bad— they just like children, like how other children likes children and how parents like their children. Studies show that the most common pedophiles are aged 12—15. Yeah, go casturate your 12 year old son, you sick fuck. Pedophiles are not a threat to harm, child molesters are, so find a moelester and do your dirty work. And I guess you should also casturate all the gays too because if you are gay, it's a mental disease. Grow up and your head out of your ass, pedophiles are awesome and they run your local YMCA so holla up in the hood ;)”

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13. Mary P. said... on May 8, 2013 at 07:34AM

“Actually I know some pedophiles, my babysitter, Jerry confessed to me that he is a pedophile after a while because he cares about the safety and security of my little Emily and I appreciate that he told me so. I still use him regularly because Emily is so fond if him and they many fun games together and now she actually enjoys bath time, which is a miracle; she always hated bath time and to physically undress her and get her in the tub was like bloody murder and now she undresses by herself so easily. She gets so excited for this bath time she and Jerry play together in the tub, but she wont tell me what It is, it's a secret she says So all in all they are ok in my book.”

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14. Gregg A. Gold said... on May 21, 2013 at 03:20PM

“Dan Savage is a sick, angerous invidivual. He is not pursuing "human rights" or "equality" in the true sense, but lives for the day when the homosexual agenda in all its ever demanding, sick, sadistic, self-centered, narcissistic glory is successfully implemented into every facet of society. Pedophilia is a mental disorder, as is homosexuality. Many homosexuals (but not all) are pedophiles. NAMBLA, the most vile organization in the USA, is regularly defended pro bono by the ACLU, the second most evil organization in the USA.

Let us never forget 10 year old Jeffrey Curely, who was stalked, abducted, molested, tortured, mutilated, then strangled by Charles Jaynes and Salvatore Sicari, on October 1, 1997. Earlier that dasy the two homosexual sickos accessed NAMBLA's website at the Boston Public Library. The ACLU rushed to defend them and NAMBLA. The case was dismissed on a terchnicality. pedohpiles are dangerous. They MUST be removed from society for the good of our children.”

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15. Anonymous said... on Jul 2, 2013 at 02:56PM

“The real sick and evil monsters are the people who think this man should be thrown in jail. He hasn't done anything wrong and doesn't plan too”

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16. Anonymous said... on Feb 3, 2014 at 08:55AM

“I do not agree with castration for pedophiles because as a straight male, I know my libido serves more useful functions to my daily living than the urge for sexual relations. Libido also works as a stimulant in helping one get up and out of bed, have work-related ambitions, think up great academic ideas, and you will even see most focus-related prescription medications have the side effect of increasing libido. I would argue that there is another option besides eliminating the libido of a pedophile; it's to channel that energy in a more positive way. Also I bet there are pedophiles out there who can actually, in part because of their biology, sincerely care for children in a way that is actually beneficial to them. Michael Jackson was one of them.”

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17. Anonymous said... on Jan 26, 2015 at 08:03PM

“Fuck all of you....I'm 16 and a pedophile. I'm no rapist and I don't have the urge to rape. Those who do have that urge to hurt a kid are fucked up and should be hanged instantly or in a mental institution away from everyone else. That being said, why the fuck are you guys demonizing something you know nothing about. You guys are fucked up for that, the reason I have not one person in the world to confess to is cause of people like you. Saying I want to rape a kid without knowing is offensive. It's like saying "oh that model has a cute butt" is equivalent to saying "I want to...do fucked up rape stuff to her"

It's not fuckin right, I never would consider hurting a kid but people I never met think I would if I happen to babysit or anything. Just makes me feel....depressed. That the whole world would probably want a bullet in the back of my head if they heard the small insignificant part of me that happens to be a pedo....fuck you guys ._.”

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18. Anonymous said... on Aug 8, 2015 at 12:42AM

“I'm pedo and proud. I'm also an elementary teacher with a great record and a higher moral compass than most people you'll ever meet.

I think I'm in the prime of my life, and even the suggestion that all pedophiles should seek help is annoying to me. If you don't like that we're everywhere you go and many of us are people you talk to on a daily basis, then you should probably be the one seeking help because we're not going anywhere.”

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19. Anonymous said... on Nov 1, 2015 at 06:02AM

“I am completely against pedophiles but all of you are cruel individuals who don't understand the concept of humanity, decency, and love. This person recognizes a flaw and is seeking help and you attacked him...which is why he seeks help here on an anonymous site.

I am a teacher at a school for abused kids and everyday I wish that the parents could have had the emotional support they needed when they were younger to have been better parents and not put their kids into the dire, hopeless situations they are now in. At least this person WANTS help.”


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