Q: I’m a straight male who skipped the sleeping around phase and went straight to long-term boyfriend. Now in my 30s, I find myself wanting to make up for lost time. I’ve talked to my girlfriend of about threesomes, swinging—anything to sleep with other women and still hold on to my relationship. My girlfriend says that her sexually adventurous days are behind her. I’m stuck: Part of me thinks I can’t be happy having never had a sexually adventurous phase, and part of me fears that I’m giving up a loving relationship for what others tell me isn’t a big deal anyway.
A: You break up.