PW’s Guide to Erotic Gifts

Because no one wins with heart-shaped chocolate.

By Dan Eldridge
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For the sexually submissive girlfriend with BDSM fantasies:

No Master-in-training could go wrong by offering his sub an understated gift, like a copy of Pauline Réage’s Story of O . But, according to local BDSM enthusiast and Sexploratorium employee Jeremy Graber, a leather collar with a leash attachment is more symbolic. Submissives are generally required to “earn” their collars, says Graber. By presenting one as a gift, a Dom is promising a serious commitment. Leather bondage collar, $20 and up. Sexploratorium, 620 S. Fifth St. 215.923.1398.

For the significant other who can’t lighten up under the covers:

Aside from munching edible undies, there’s nothing that brings out the goofier side of sex quite like painting on your partner’s sensitive spots. The current must-have accessory is the Edible Finger Paints box. It comes with four flavors—cherry, strawberry, blueberry and apple. For something less risqué, check out the adult games at Condom Kingdom. We’re fond of the Lover’s Tower , a naughty cross between Jenga and truth-or-dare. Edible Finger Paints, $9.99; adult games, $11.99 and up. Condom Kingdom, 437 South St. 215.829.1668.

For the man in your life who isn’t gettin’ any:

You must have a unique relationship with a guy if you plan on giving him a masturbation toy. Try Tenga Eggs , discrete masturbation aids designed to look like real eggs and packed with lube and a ribbed sheath. Throw in some high-quality lube, too. We recommend Stroke 29 Masturbation Cream , an uncommonly silky product practically guaranteed to last longer than he will. If you’re feeling especially generous, go for the Five Finger Massage Glove , a waterproof, multi-speed device that works well with one player or two. Tenga Eggs, $9.95-$49.95; Pleasure Chest, 2039 Walnut St. 215.561.7480. Stroke 29 Masturbation Cream, $8; Five Finger Massage Glove, $60. Velvet Lily, 1040 N. Second St. 800.328.5459.

For the gal-pal complaining about her relationship’s lack of passion:

When recommending gifts for couples, Passional Boutique owner Kali Morgan suggests her shop’s Passion 101 classes , specifically those with a bondage theme. “ The classes are about establishing a connection of trust,” she says. “You’re not going to let someone tie you up if you don’t trust them!” Previous classes have covered knife play and suspension bondage. Next up is a “Sex Positions for Couples” workshop on Feb. 12, and a “Rough Sex for Beginners” workshop on Feb. 19. Passion 101 classes, $20-$30. Sexploratorium, 620 S. Fifth St. 215.923.1398.

For your promiscuous gal-pal, who brags about random hookups:

Inside the tacky sex-toy shops lining South Street, the classiest offerings are often by Kama Sutra. We’re partial to the Weekender Kit , described as “a travel set for spontaneous romance,” and featuring massage oils, skin balms, lubricants, honey dust and a feather applicator. There’s also the Getaway Kit , sized to meet flight regulatory standards. We also recommend The Kama Sutra Deck: 50 Ways to Love Your Lover , which contains 50 Kama Sutra-themed cards, each with a lovemaking tip. Kama Sutra gift sets, $27.50-$75. The Kama Sutra Deck, $14.95. The Mood, 531 South St. 215.413.1930.

 For the couple stuck in a sex rut:

Everyone knows that sex in a hot tub doesn’t work. But sex in the shower? For lovers concerned about slippery tile, the Velvet Lily carries waterproof shower-sex accessories. There’s the Locking Suction Handle , which gives you something other than wet skin to cling to. There are the Locking Suction Foot Rest , for complicated positions. There’s even Suction Handcuffs , and something called the Waterproof Wallbangers Deluxe , which is a vibrator with a clit massager that sticks to the wall. Waterproof shower toys, $15-$40. Velvet Lily, 1040 N. Second St. 800.328.5459.

For the boyfriend who hasn’t discovered the joys of back-door action:

When Passional Boutique owner Kali Morgan was asked to suggest an appropriate Valentine’s gift for single guys, she mentioned the Aneros prostate massagers . Ass play is unexplored territory for most guys, she says. Originally developed for use in medical settings, the products in the Aneros line help some men achieve body-rattling orgasms. Aneros Prostate-Perineum Stimulator, $59.99-$89.99. Sexploratorium, 620 S. Fifth St. 215.923.1398.

For the girlfriend who enjoys the occasional porn flick:

Assuming your significant other is the type who likes to squawk about supporting local arts, you can’t go wrong with a blue movie from TLA Video, which is one of the biggest distributors of such films on the East Coast. We suggest PopPorn’s silly Guide to Making Fuck. Porno DVDs, $16.99-$22.99.

  For the roommate who goes through vibrators like underwear:

According to the Mood’s Andre Dawson, bullet vibrators are one of the shop’s best-selling items. And while most customers purchase the original, Dawson suggests something completely different: the Silk Touch Egg Vibe . It’s preferable to a regular bullet vibe, he says, and comes with six speed settings, perfect for helping a loved one come out of her shell. Sea Foam Silk Touch Egg, $32.99. The Mood, 531 South St. 215.413.1930.

For the buddy who can’t seem to get laid:

For nice guys, the mystery of women preferring bad boys can be painful. If there’s a fellow in your life who could use an education in the seductive arts, get him a copy of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, by Neil Strauss. The book looks like a Bible, and its tips and techniques are considered gospel. And since your pal will almost certainly have a full dance card soon, think about throwing in a copy of The Guide to Getting It On, by Paul Joannides. This phonebook-sized book is considered to be the finest instructional sex manual in existence. Sex and relationships books , $19.99-$26. Barnes & Noble, 1805 Walnut St. 215.665.0716.

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1. Kali Morgan said... on Feb 10, 2010 at 02:40PM

“These products are from Sexploratorium, not PASSIONAL Boutique and the URL for Sexploratorium is or FYI (Ironic given that three different fact checkers from PW called to confirm every other fact in this guide but never asked for confirmation of our website). Unfortunately, PASSIONAL Boutique only sells corsets and clubwear, all the sexuality products are down the street.
All the other info is correct, though!”

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2. Remi said... on Feb 12, 2010 at 12:10PM

“A collar is good for the submissive boyfriend as well. :) *hinthint*”

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3. One Satisfied Costumer said... on Feb 13, 2010 at 09:08AM

“For those of us who love toys and accessories, I recommend the Velvet Lily and Passional. Both companies are into sexual education and your pleasure. The sales people in both shops make you feel comfortable and encourage you to explore. And most importantly both companies are owned and operated by women.

The Velvet Lily is new to the scene but the product offerings and sex savvy staff put them above other adult toy shops. It is a very classy shop, I want to use the word Diva when I walk in.

Passional has been around the longest. The products and classes help costumers explore the deeper sides of toy play, role play, BDSM and generally anything else that turns us on.

Happy Shopping”

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4. Anonymous said... on Feb 15, 2010 at 10:32PM

“I don't suggest The Velvet Lily. They don't carry body safe products and they are extremely overpriced. Go to Passional - they know their stuff and provide quality products and education.”

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5. Anonymous said... on Feb 19, 2010 at 08:31AM

“Apologies to VELVET LILLY, Am related to owner of Passional and spur of the moment decided to diss VELVET LILLY, which does carry body safe products and are priced very competitively. They are professional and provide a comfortable shopping environment. I feel awful about this.”

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6. DB said... on Feb 19, 2010 at 03:21PM

“I have shopped at the velvet lily and had the best experience, usually the owner is at the store and she makes you feel right at home, well if your home is an adult I would defiantly recommend shopping here she caters to your needs and is very knowledgeable regarding her products. Def recommend”

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7. Anonymous said... on Feb 19, 2010 at 05:46PM

“AYO! VL da baaawmb, son. Represent.”

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8. KS said... on Feb 20, 2010 at 12:56AM

“The Velvet Lilly offers amazing products, classes and customer service. I could not imagine a more *first class* business in its industry. You will not get the service, knowledgeable service or warm welcome that makes you feel completely comfortable @ ********* or any other store of its kind in Philly! A breakthrough when compared to local peers. Try it out. You're not committing to anything by walking through the doors! There is enough business to go around, don't diss a high quality store.”

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9. Anonymous said... on Feb 20, 2010 at 08:24AM

“No, I'm not related to anyone at Passional but I have been a loyal customer there for 10 years and have checked out the Velvet Lily and was extremely displeased with the lack of quality product they carry.”

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10. said... on Feb 20, 2010 at 10:04AM

“Thank everyone for their input whether good or bad. It helps me grow and develop as a business owner. And with our new sex educators, we strive to provide the highest quality products that are body safe. We are a very small boutique (900 sq feet not including the workshop room) with half of the store carrying lingerie from designers such as Mary Green, Carol Maloney, Timpa, Honeydew, Naughty by Janet, and more. We have quality products such as Lelo, Njoy, We Vibe, and other body safe including lubricants such as Pink and Gun Oil (Phthalate & Glycerin Free). Our mission is to educate and entertain our customers not only through our workshops but also with our home party business in 4 different states - to create Romance, Intimacy, and Passion. I'm sorry we don't meet everyone's needs and we wish you the best wherever you may shop.”

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11. Al & Mary Cassada said... on Feb 21, 2010 at 12:04AM

“My wife and I stumbled upon the Velvet Lily, in December 2009, while having dinner in Northern Liberties. Not knowing that it was an adult novelty store we walked in. What a suprise! We always stayed away from these type of stores because of our experiences of South street. To our delight, the store was very pleasing to the eye. That's what had us walk in. Absolutely beautiful, classy and upscale. The owner/ operator and husband were both in the store. They shared their story about their business to us. They have a huge commitment to people, relationships, romance, and to improve the perception of the adult novelty industry.

My wife and I spent a few hundred dollars that night. My wife travels to Northern Liberties from King Of Prussia - just to see what's new at the Velvet Lily. For her it's a fun, welcoming, educational and sexy experience.
Our relationship is hotter and better than ever. I recommend the store to couples. Buying toys online is not the same.”


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