“Within the U.S., the states with the least Internet access between 1980 and 2000—and therefore the least access to Internet pornography—experienced a 53 percent increase in rape incidence, whereas the states with the most access experienced a 27 percent drop in the number of reported rapes, according to a paper published in 2006 by Anthony D’Amato, a law professor at Northwestern University,” Moyer writes. “It is important to note that these associations are just that—associations. They do not prove that pornography is the cause of the observed crime reductions. Nevertheless, the trends ‘just don’t fit with the theory that rape and sexual assault are in part influenced by pornography,’ [Professor Christopher J.] Ferguson [of Texas A&M] explains. ‘At this point, I think we can say the evidence just isn’t there, and it is time to retire this belief.’”
The complicating factor here, of course, is that you’re leading these men to believe that you’re actually doing it, i.e., the noises they’re hearing are your daughter blowing you and not you stirring a jar of mayo. So will the men you talk to want to rape their daughters in real life because you’ve led them to believe that you’re raping your daughter? Hard to say ... and even harder to get data on. But the people doing taboo shit in porn are actually doing it, and the data suggests that watching others do it, i.e., living vicariously through porn performers (who are sometimes faking it, but still), leads to fewer people acting on taboo desires in real life, not more.
I’m a Canadian 25-year-old gay man in a four-year relationship with a 22-year-old. Over the course of our relationship, we’ve explored each other’s kinks and been very understanding and GGG. The sex is amazing and varied. The problem: He has this fantasy that I’m having trouble pulling off. He wants me to piss in his ass. But peeing while erect is not my forte. I’ve tried, but I have to concentrate on peeing to actually go, and that just resulted in my going soft while I was inside him. By the time the urine was actually flowing, my dick was so soft that his sphincter was actually pinching my urethra closed, making it impossible for me to pee. He hasn’t bottomed in a couple of years, since I realized how much I love it, so I’m assuming his tightness isn’t helping. I just can’t think of what more I can do to fulfill this fantasy for him. Do I need to just learn how to pee while erect or is there an easier way? I’m stumped and worried I won’t be able to make this happen for him.
Dripping Out Urine Confounds His Enema
I’m going to assume that you two are in a committed relationship, that you’ve both been tested and have either no STIs or the same STIs, that neither of you is having unprotected sex with anyone else, that you rarely eat asparagus or beets, that you don’t plan on doing this in front of your pets, etc.
OK, DOUCHE, I feel like Santa Claus right now because I have the perfect toy to put under your tree. (Your tree is still up, right?) Go to forttroff.com, click “Enter,” search “ass tunnel,” then watch the video demo. It’s an after-Christmas miracle. (For the idiots in my readership, that link is NSFW. And, yes, I’m assuming DOUCHE and his BF celebrate Christmas. But only because all the piss-in-assers I’ve ever known were homeschooled Liberty University graduates.)
So I was innocently browsing the personal ads on Craigslist and saw one from a dude who was looking to try “saline balls.” Having no idea what this was, I Googled it. I was completely and utterly mortified at what I saw. My copious Internet searching failed to yield the answers to the most basic questions regarding saline balls: 1. What is the procedure/process for saline-ing one’s balls? 2. What about it turns on the saliner/salinee? 3. How long does the effect last? 4. Can it be (god forbid) irreversible?
Completely Utterly Mortified
“The technical name for what CUM is asking about is ‘scrotal inflation,’” says Dart, a leatherman, BDSM/kink educator and host of the Dart’s Domain podcast. “It’s a type of body-modification play where the scrotum is infused with approximately 500 milliliters to one liter of saline solution via an IV/cannula drip, which results in the balls appearing to have enlarged to the size of a pair of grapefruits.”
Saline, of course, is simply salt water, and sterile saline solutions are administered intravenously to dehydrated patients so that they don’t, you know, die. But some people—like the guys your Craigslist friend was seeking out—engage in recreational saline play. But they’re not putting saline in their balls, CUM, they’re putting saline in their ball sacks.
“The skin of the sack has a great deal of elasticity and can safely stretch to this large size without incurring damage,” says Dart. (Balls, of course, are not noted for their elasticity, and they can burst.) “While this is a more extreme form of kink play, if done under sterile conditions with hospital-grade materials, it can be accomplished with a minimal risk,” says Dart. “No one should experiment with scrotal inflation without some experienced guidance, and no one should do it alone. Some of the risks that can happen include local infection and cellulitis, which can occur from a lack of sterility. There can also be dangerous problems if any air was present in the tubing of the IV during the infusion. But again, if proper precautions are taken, these risks can be avoided.”
The inflation process takes about an hour, the effect lasts for a day or two, and the sack gradually returns to normal size as the saline is absorbed into the body. So the process is always reversible—so long as you’re inflating your sack with saline and not, say, silicone, spackle or packing peanuts. Your sack may be a little looser afterward, but you’re not going to be stuck with a giant sack forever.
As for why this is a turn-on, well, turn-ons are highly subjective.
“The turn-on answer varies from person to person,” says Dart. “For some, there is a certain rush from temporarily modifying a part of their body to a ‘monstrous’ size. Others have ‘medical play’ fantasies. In a power exchange setting between a dominant and a submissive, the dom may get off on ‘altering’ a part of the sub’s body against the sub’s will, while the sub may get turned on by the humiliation aspect. It’s a wide spectrum. As I say, it’s not for everyone. But many, including myself, have engaged in it safely and had a pretty fun time doing it.”
Anyone who wants to see a pair of grapefruit-sized “saline balls” in action should go here: tinyurl. com/salineballs. Anyone who wants to find Dart’s blog, podcast and videos should go here: dartsdomain.com.
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